A Letter to the Young Ladies

Being in college, in your 20’s or out of your parent’s home is fun, but there’s a lot of other STUFF that comes along with it that isn’t! As I was driving to work one morning I thought about what I would have wanted someone to say to me (or wish I would have listened to from those who actually said it), about the practical parts of life after high school and before the official start of the “grown with a husband, a house, responsibilities, children and a job” world.

A recent trip to a high school basketball tournament where far too many of the young ladies were scantily clad, feisty (not is a good way) and clearly unaware of their inner and outer beauty reinforced the need for me to share this post again.


So here’s what I would have said to the tall, scrawny teenage girl who helped me become the woman I am today through trial and a lot of error. Here’s what I would also say to any young lady making her way through this often crazy thing called life.


  • Love who you are. You can’t expect love from others if you don’t extend it to yourself.
  • The tears you cry today will either make sense or make you stronger.
  • Save some money. Get an education. Learn to cook. Learn how to change a tire.
  • Shopping on a budget is beautiful.
  • Pace yourself with food. One day the pounds can catch up with you.
  • There’s a good chance that the love of your life right now won’t be the love of your life forever…and that’s okay.
  • Learn from each association. Always do a self-check and continually prepare yourself for who and what God desires for you.
  • Demand that a young man is nothing less than his best. Settling is for pilgrims. He should pursue you, respect you and help bring out the best in you, point blank, period.
  • It’s never too late to ask for help. It’s better to ask and receive than need and not get.
  • Your friends today can be your friends for a lifetime…good or bad. Choose wisely.
  • You’re worth WAY more than you know. One day you’ll know it and want to make sure your life shows it.
  • Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone to grow and know people who aren’t like you, but can teach you a thing or two.
  • Some of the best friendships will be born when bad relationships die.
  • One day, through age, illness, and plain old life you may not be as cute as you are today. Always make sure character, class and couth remain in tact.
  • Keep your clothes on please.
  • Never be afraid of being unique. If you don’t speak like, think like, act like, or look like everyone else consider that an honor.
  • People will never forget what you do, one way or the other. Make sure what they remember is a true, good reflection of who you are.
  • Don’t gossip, be a bully, be messy, negative or angry all the time,
  • Smile often and laugh even more.
  • Never lose sight of your own purpose and dreams. You were born for a specific reason.



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