God Does Not Punch a Time Clock

One of the hardest lessons in life I’m still grappling with learning is the fact that God does not punch a time clock. In fact, He’s not on our payroll, enrollment plan, benefits package or employee roster. He runs this!

All off my early life I’d planned on things happening by a certain time in my life, in a certain way, with (or without) certain people, at a certain rate of rapidness, and with certainty. Welp, the mere fact that I’m writing a blog post called “God Does Not Punch a Time Clock” should tell you that little, to nothing that I planned on happening happened when or how I planned on it happening.


I would like to say that I’m A-okay with that, but I try to be as truthful and as transparent as possible in my posts so I have to admit that more times than I can count I don’t like waiting.

At a dinner with friends recently the conversation turned to relationships. (Are you surprised???) Only one of the women present was married. The rest of us weren’t even in dating relationships. We talked a lot about what we wanted, what we’d lost and wanted again and that old, faithful conversation piece…God’s timing. Being grown, and having grown enough in Jesus, we all understood the concept of God’s timing, but that still doesn’t take away the desire for marriage, new careers, more provision, greater ministry opportunities, or simply more to have in order to give. Low and behold, the married one gingerly whipped out these beautiful bookmarks she selected for us, placing them in front of us without saying a word. Much to our surprise (although it should not have been) they were about trusting God and His timing. The Lord was so strategic in sending His message, the bookmarks even had my favorite scriptures on it (just in case I missed the point.)


I thought about God’s timing after that. Something dawned on me that will carry me through to until my dreams come true. God truly does not punch a time clock. He’s on His own schedule on His own terms for His own glory and our own good. That means there will be some things that He simply will not allow to happen as soon or as swiftly as we desire. Why? Because He runs this, and that’s a good thing! BUT….because God does not punch a time clock there will be some things that He will absolutely allow to happen faster, more fervently and frequently than our little minds could have ever imagined. Why? Because He runs this, and that’s a good thing!



Do Yourself a Favor and Don’t Do It

This will probably be a short blog post.

Having spent a year and a half in a Church of the Highlands divorce support small group one of the things I learned from others and observed in myself is that when you’re fresh off the heels of something old you do not want to enter into something new. That goes for the ones who are exiting the marriage and the ones who think they want to be the ones to enter in next.


There’s an old saying that says, “fools rush in”. Tis true. Rushing in to be the next one after a person has divorced and ESPECIALLY if they are still legally married (I don’t care what he or she tells you) is not a wise move. It’s like moving into a house where someone forgot to take out the garbage for as many years as a person has been married. There has to be time to heal, get rid of the stinky garbage, and sort things out. That takes a concentrated effort to do so, after a divorce, and to do so distraction-free. Point. Blank. Period.

If you’ve ever considered dating someone who is separated or recently divorced do yourself a favor and don’t do it.



Don’t stop. Get it. Get it.

Life Gets Better

“Don’t stop. Get it. Get it.” Oh, how I tickled I was to be able to let the melodious lyrics of Uncle Luke from my hair-sweating dance days of the 90’s lead the way to this post. I’ve always been one to find inspiration in the strangest of places, and be able to add a dose of good, grown-up sense with it. With that said, I, in no way condone the words to that Miami, base-laden chart topper (sadly, at least in my little T-town college world it was a chart topper). In fact, when I googled the phrase I was shocked (and embarrassed) that I even listened to a song like this. Good thing I only remembered part of the lyrics:). Still, there’s something about that one line that sticks to me like powdered sugar from a funnel cake on my favorite Easter dress. The more I try to get rid of it, the…

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Divorce: I Wanted to Snap!

You ever had someone tell you they’re leaving you? At the utterance of those words and in the days and months following have you ever had repeated and rapid flashbacks of the dreams you nurtured, worked for, prayed for and strived toward turning into what feels like an unwakable nightmare? Have you ever pulled out a calculator to remind yourself of the amount of money your parents paid for the wedding? Have you ever had the realization of the career you sacrificed hit you like a ton of bricks, or the thought of financial deprivation and absolute public humiliation? Have you ever lost a husband, church, career, some family and friends, health insurance, cell phone coverage, life insurance coverage, and income within three months? I have and I wanted to SNAP (crackle and pop)!

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With that said, I’m so glad I didn’t. Recently, however, I had a chance to talk to another woman who is where I once was. Not to quantify or rank divorces, but I would even admit that her situation seemed to be even more of a challenge than mine. She was ready to declare war, honey and suffer the consequences later. I laughed at myself (and her) as I started telling her of some of the ways the enemy tried to get me to get myself off track during my separation and divorce process. I had soooooooo many plots and plans to get back at various people and entities. I did. I really, really did. I shall not entertain you or embarrass myself by sharing some of those maniacal plans, but let’s just say my mind had to constantly be put in check. Because I’m a “lady” and I’m a writer, not a fighter none of the things I wanted to do to seek revenge would have landed me in jail, but I would have been absolutely imprisoned in a battle of regression, regret and total shame.

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I know it’s tough when we endure the heartbreaking reality of divorce, but I’m a firm believer after battling my own internal struggles, that our God does not fix a problem by creating a problem. He never intends for us to add any more pain to the pain that’s already been placed on us by going all “B-movie” and slashing tires, burning clothes, stalking or snapping on the man, woman, other man or other woman. He does not desire us to act out of character by lashing out on a social media “mess” blitz, or playing “hide and seek” with our children. He does not want us calling our old friends from the other side of town to “handle things” on our behalf, and he certainly doesn’t delight in us practicing our private eye skills turning our nights and early mornings into a seen from Matlock or Catfish.

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God promises that He ALWAYS has a way of escape, especially when it comes to us trying to do His job. After all, this is His battle to fight. 2 Chronicles 20:17 (NIRV) says, “You will not have to fight this battle. Take your positions. Stand firm. You will see how I will save you. Judah and Jerusalem, do not be afraid. Do not lose hope. Go out and face them tomorrow. I will be with you.”

We have to remember to hold to the Lord in times of hurt. The more we want to snap (crackle and pop) the more we need to stand firm trusting Him to heal, deliver, restore and reward.