So much talk goes on about the lives of others. The Bobbi Kristina Brown story is striking a particular nerve with me as I read and hear opinion after opinion after opinion on a situation that, frankly, none of us know of. A true fan of her mother Whitney Houston, and an even bigger fan of human beings, the rash of harsh commentary from people regarding this child who is fighting for her life simply hurts my heart. It hurts my heart to the core.
Imagine with me, if you will, if the horrible, hurtful, opinionated, assuming talk some of us talk was talked about our loved ones or us. I’ve been on the end of speculation, misunderstanding, fiction reigning over unknown fact and that’s a hurtful place to be. I simply can’t imagine being in a position of the public spotlight where that place is magnified by the booming voice of social media at its worst.
So many have a “say so” about circumstances and situations we have no idea about. Often we sit and converse with absolute certainty on matters that we have no direct or indirect knowledge. Some post and repost at the speed of flashing light words as damaging as can be, with no thought to even check the source before pressing send. I’ll confess, I’ve been guilty of tossing my “two cents” in the pool of opinion, but I’m making a conscious effort now to keep my mouth to myself, unless it’s used in a way to encourage, or to educate with facts where ignorance of another once prevailed.
Here’s the truth about having a “say so” regarding the lives of others we know, and especially those we don’t know:
- These people are people with feelings and family.
- Just because a person has money, influence or position is no excuse for us to unleash public, social abuse.
- We don’t know them. Let me say that again. We don’t know them. Any star, person, or couple we speak of as of with certainty.
- We weren’t there when whatever we heard of happened.
- Of those we do know, like family and friends, we only know what they say, or show us. Please know that people only let you know what they want you to know.
- And lastly, sometimes, more often than not, and as difficult as it may be, it’s good to just keep your “say so” to yourself.
Prayers for Bobbi Kristina.
RIP Whitney Houston.
Long live privacy for and respect of others.