Here’s a secret that’s been silent too long. Nobody’s perfect.
No person is perfect. No job is perfect. No organization is perfect. No group of friends is perfect. No church is perfect. No family is perfect. No school is perfect. No marriage is perfect. No civic or social setting is perfect. Plain and simple, nobody’s perfect, and that’s perfectly okay.
So, with that said we have to decide to allow imperfect people, places and things to be just that and not place expectations on them which are impossible to fulfill. We have to continue to look for the good in humans, even the fake, flawed, phony, misguided, messed up, hurting and discombobulated ones, who are sometimes and often not too unlike us. We have to cut slack, operate in forgiveness, take the pressure off and allow room to grow just like God does for us daily. Not that all people are meant to be in our lives. Some clearly are not, but some are, which means we can’t always cry foul and choose to remove ourselves from others at the whisking of the wind. Whether through example near or not as near we have to continue to learn from them, engage with them (if that’s God’s will), be open to others who may not or may be like them, and live life fully vested and invested in the notions that:
- We can’t always shut down and shut off from people.
- We can’t do life alone.
- We can’t hold on to the bad of one and place it on others.
- We can’t expect people to be, do and think as we are and do.
- We can’t always take things so personally and/or hold it permanently.
- We can’t isolate everyone and everything at the sign of unmet expectations.
- We can’t let the fear of being hurt stop us from being helped.
- And nobody’s perfect and that’s perfectly okay.