Have you ever wondered how others have come out of the throes of divorce sooner, more whole or even better than they once were? I know I wondered that when I found myself on the other end of that unexpected news and lengthy legal documents years ago. Not that the devastation instantly disappears, and certainly not to imply that healing means we’ve never hurt, but there are things we can do to help through the process to wholeness.

I remember being at a  “chat and chew” with some divorcees. As we munched on food, served up support and shared our “war stories” we offered similar insights on what it takes to make it through what surely no man or woman ever expects to happen. Though our situations were all totally different, and the lengths of time we’d been divorced varied an overriding theme was the importance of staying connected. That’s right, it’s as complicatedly simple as that.

Divorce in itself…