The Power of a Circle

Yesterday I almost cried. For seven months I’ve been spending either my Monday or Tuesday afternoon with students from Birmingham, Alabama’s Woodlawn High School through a Church of the Highlands Small Group called Steps to Success. Like clockwork these amazing 9th-12th graders would trek across the street from school to the Birmingham Dream Center, filing in one-by-one, some with smiles, some with giggles, and some with looks of sheer exhaustion, after spending a day learning within the four wall of the traditional academic atmosphere.

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Week-by-week they would come for another round of education through the small group I was blessed to be able to start just to spend another hour or so learning. Sure, there was Little Ceasar’s free pizza and the occasional Chick-fil-A sandwiches. Yes, there were my corny jokes, standard “Hey, y’all” when they walked through the door and required picture taking when they departed. Certainly there were amazing co-leaders leading and helping organize along side me like Mr. William, Ms. Jones and Ms. Helen from the Dream Center who made it all happen for us each week with welcome arms and a warm smile. Absolutely there were the speakers who showed up to give back each week sharing their professional advice, personal “oops, I made a mistake”, stories of struggle and triumph, wisdom, connections and God-given love. Don’t believe me? Just check and see who and how AWESOME they are. BTW…my friends and colleagues ROCK! #blessedtoknowthem

September 8: First and Lasting Impressions in Business and Life-Angela Moore

September 15: Law and/or Finance-William McKenzie

September 22: Mock Interviews and Networking –Angela Moore and Rikki Ross

September 29: Public Relations-Chanda Temple and Jeniese Hosey

October 6: US Air Force-Lacy Gunnoe

October 20: Media- Pamela Cook and Tasha Simone

October 27-Owning Your Own Business- Kim Colvin, Chandra Sparks Splond, Pastor Mike and Dee Edwards

November 3: Business and Public Safety- Annetta Nunn and Charlie Glover

November 10: Community Engagement-Bacarra Mauldin, Tanika Harrell, DeShunn Wilkerson, and Jennifer Hatchett

November 17: College 101-Kristalyn Lee

November 24: Science and Technology-Russell McClinton, Kaye Williams and Cynthia Byner

February 10: Soft Skills- Rikki Ross and Angela Moore

February 17: Design-Traci Ann Moore

March 3: Social Justice and Youth Leadership-Rebecca Harkless and Angela Moore

March 10: Social Work-Walter Robinson

March 17: Videography, Photography, Graphics-Patrick Johnson, Eric Jones and Terria Jones

March 24: Community Leadership- Taneisha Tucker and Charmel Taylor

April 7: Health- Michelle Bridges, RN

April 14: Life Enrichment-Dr. Mark Sullivan and Cassaundra Davis

April 21: Following Your Dreams-Joe Lockett, Melva Tate and Comedienne Joy of The Joe Lockett Show

April 28: The Truth About High School-Angela Moore

May 5: Law- William McKinley

May 12: Closing Ceremony with Returning Speakers

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Most importantly there were the students! These future veterinarians, computer program designers, cosmetologists, engineers, music producers, politicians, public speakers, medical experts, civic servants and sports analysts who also just so happen to be some of the brightest million dollar and nationally known scholarship winners, robotics team leaders, horticulture experts, basketball players, playwrights, student ambassadors and all-around good people filled the room and filled our hearts each week with their mere presence. Sometimes braving the cold, potential snow and heat while others were home, hanging out or being ordinary teens, these extraordinary human beings showed up each week and soared. The ease at which they trusted the help of strangers, pouring out their thoughts and questions had me in awe. Their spunk, inquisitiveness and support of each other inspired me. The things they learned and taught simultaneously in our often-lopsided circle will stick with me forever.

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Who knows where all these mighty agents of change will go in life. No one but God for sure. But I can speak on behalf of all those who spoke to them during the Steps to Success Small Group and safely say I’m glad I was in the circle along for a part of their journey, and can’t wait to see where it takes them.



What Are You Going to Do?

An alleged bad check (that proved to not be true). Sleeping at home. Jogging in a neighborhood. A hooded sweatshirt and Skittles. Allegedly resisting arrest (that proved to not be true). Shoplifting and swinging on a cop. Selling single cigarettes on the street. Those are the things “they say” played a part in the literal stopping of black men’s and women’s hearts. I won’t delve much into he say, she say or they say, but will pose the question, “Regardless of what they say, what are you going to do?”

I went to sleep the night of December 3, 2014 bombarded by a plethora of personal emotions that were ushered in by a verdict of disrespect regarding the murder of Eric Garner. I woke up this morning on May 29, 2020 with those same personal emotions as I see the Twin Cities (RIP George Floyd), St. Louis (RIP Breonna Taylor) and other areas ablaze and enraged at yet another senseless story of black life disregarded. I woke up on May 29, 2020 just like I have TOO MANY FREAKIN’ TIMES BEFORE demanding an answer to the question of “what are you going to do?”

This morning I woke up and remembered that this is still America, flaws and all, and if anything we all know a little something about doing what needs to be done when we feel we are wronged. Say what you want, but we are a country born of survivors, who in their own unique, often twisted, unconventional and sometimes unfortunate way have learned to rise above wrong to the best of our feeble human ability. We are a country founded by people who felt they were done wrong and had the gumption enough to leave their home to find another home. We’re the same country who sadly kicked the native people out of their true home, and while we stole the native’s land we couldn’t steal their legacy which is still rebuilding today.  We are the America that plucked a people straight out of Africa and other parts of the world to build these (need to be) United States, sold them into slavery, denied them of rights, stripped them of dignity and, some 400 years later elected a leader with real African blood flowing through his Presidential veins and saw, as we still see, those very African (American) people continually rise up like a yeast-laden ball of dough. Oh yes, we know how to rebound from wrong… uninvited, self-inflicted or otherwise.

So I ask today, as the sun has risen on another day of new protests around the country what are you going to do? After the venting, posting, praying, commenting on who’s not doing enough, blogging, voting, complaining, pleas for peace, protests, calls for action, displays of anger, crying, playing N.W.A. or Public Enemy, lamenting, cursing the very ground you walk on, wishing you lived in Sweden, or virtually shutting down what are you going to do?


I’m not an activist in the traditional sense of the word, but I believe in taking action. In fact, I believe part of my purpose is to help bring hope and healing while others do their part to fight the good fight. I’m sort of like the “clean up woman” and I will wear that title with humility and pride.  So, what are you going to do?  Is violence the answer? I’m from the school of Ghandi and Dr. King believing that the answer is a resounding no. Will change happen overnight? No. Will the victory come with ease? No. Will it take one race only to write this ugly wrong? No. But I’m convinced enough that together there is more we all can contribute toward the cause. Like what you might ask? Glad you did.

  • Mentor others. That’s what I did, each week for years with high school students. It changed my life as much as it did theirs. I wanted them to see successful men and women, black and white who love them, believe in them and are there for them. Find someone in your area where you are to help.
  • Host constructive, open forum conversations about racism and involve lots of races. Don’t just talk about race to people who look like you or sound like you on social media. That’s part of the problem. There’s too much preaching to the choir and not enough coming out of comfort. Follow the footsteps of the great Foot Soldiers and make this thing really be the united front it should be.
  • Open your mouth to help your “other” brothers and sisters. If you are of a race which does not know the utter fear of living with racism on a daily PLEASE call a thing a thing (racism is hate personified if you see it, hear it or know your pals operate in it say something). Do something powerful with your power.
  • If you are politically savvy, use your voice to educate those who are unaware of the facts. Write op-ed pieces, attend neighborhood meetings, talk at your barber and beauty shops. Share your knowledge and influence on how we can cause change. Break down the systems that support racism.
  • Join organizations who have lasted longer than the latest headlines. There is still much value in some of the organizations of old which made a difference then, and with the help of people like us can return to their place of change-causing glory. The NAACP, SCLC, Urban League, and other organizations still have value.
  • Promote financial literacy and equity. If you know money, talk money. Money is at the heart of so much of what is happening. Privilege or the lack their of, not having enough and fear of losing what one has has always been a cause for conflict. Share your wisdom on ways we can all live to “live the American dream” and use your knowledge and your dollars to tear down racially stifling economic systems.
  • If you are legally minded, share your knowledge of the law with those who don’t know it (and those who don’t want to know it). Go back to the hood, or go there for the first time if you haven’t had the pleasure, into schools, churches, mosques, synagogues or wherever and open up your mind and mouth to educate others.
  • Give money to causes that bring about positive cause.
  • Run for office and don’t abuse the power when you win.
  • Help keep stories and people alive. If you know you know how to use words to captivate do so. Someone has to make sure the names and faces of the victims don’t fade as the days on the calendar do. Teach people how to be interviewed and how to represent themselves in a way that will get their point across to the masses.
  • Be slow to anger and stay safe. Again, get angry. I am FURIOUS. But don’t let one problem end up causing you ten years or taking you six feet under.
  • And whatever you do, do the right thing, don’t stop fighting the good fight and don’t give up hope that WE shall overcome. #FightThePower
And by ALL that means ALL…Black and Brown people included.